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you know what pisses me off? people who think they are better than… - Speak Friend and Enter
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you know what pisses me off? people who think they are better than me because they have more money. saturday night i went out to dinner for sarah and shaunna's birthdays with a whole bunch of their friends. it was a really good time. and then the bill came. now, i know some people probably just say "divide it x ways and everyone pays a fair share" and i'm sure that works when it doesn't hit you that hard. i didn't count out exactly what i owed, i put in more money that i needed to and left it at that. between the food and parking, i dropped $36 at a time when i really couldn't afford to. i don't know who all put in what. i had assumed the tip was included for a party that size, but apparently it wasn't, but i had already put in tip money. in the end the money on hand totalled the bill itself, but not any kind of tip. now, i'm not cheap, i like to tip good service if it's within my means. it was around this time that some people got a little testy about how much money was being left. one person in particular (names withheld to protect the innocent) declared "for a place like this, you tip 20%". that's fine if you aren't spending next week's meal money, i suppose. anyway, after another count, it was still around 10% of the bill, at which point the same person said loud enough for everyone to hear "cheap motherfuckers", pulled out more money, and handed the entire pile to the waiter, as the person had obviously been forced to wait far too long by the rest of us penny-pinching misers.

you know, i await the day when i can go out to dinner, be a gracious tipper and not worry about the money i spend. sadly, that day hasn't arrived yet. and in the meantime, i make every effort to do what i can, i.e. not eat out ever, except for special occasions like this. and it's completely ruined by someone else simply calls everyone else cheap without having any god damn clue how much people put in, because it's easy to feel superior to others when you have more money than them. well, fuck you.

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pillar From: pillar Date: November 22nd, 2005 01:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
I really hate the "let's just divide the bill" crap. I usually can afford to pay more, but I assume I'm paying for what I order, and I've been in lots of situations where people will just order tons of stuff (like lots of appetizers or whatver) and say "well it was for everyone". There's been other times where I couldn't afford more than what I ordered, and I think you did the right thing. Sucks someone had to ruin it by being an ass.
suffocated From: suffocated Date: November 22nd, 2005 03:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
i haven't seen you in forever, mel. how are you doing?
funnyz0r From: funnyz0r Date: November 22nd, 2005 05:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't know what to do. She needs to hear it. But I don't want to lose my friendship over this with her. Because I know she'll pick him over us anyday. : ( Even though we have been in her life for ages. I <3 you
lairans From: lairans Date: November 23rd, 2005 08:07 am (UTC) (Link)
interesting.... who gets this worked up over a meal bill?!!
funnyz0r From: funnyz0r Date: November 23rd, 2005 04:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh Chris, it's worse then just getting worked up...I didn't appriciate the guy calling my friends that, so he put on his fucking cranky pants and became some sort of monster. : ( All over a tip.
lairans From: lairans Date: November 23rd, 2005 11:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
sounds a bit on the rediculous side. sounds like someone needs to deal with some issues. I don't see how it is anyone's place to be so arrogant
funnyz0r From: funnyz0r Date: November 24th, 2005 12:16 am (UTC) (Link)
Clearly. He thinks so much of himself, which is fine, but to put others down for a fucking tip is stupid. He won't answer my phone calls either so I can't work it out with him. Not because I want to stay friends, but because I don't want to lose another one because of this. Does that make sense? Anyways, if I don't approch this the right way, i'll lose her, becuase she'll pick him before me. : ( At least, i'm pretty sure she will.
lairans From: lairans Date: November 24th, 2005 01:00 am (UTC) (Link)
Do you have any kind of evidence that leads you to believe a certain someone will choose her boyfriend over her friends? That is kinda sad. I am jaded but I am generally under the impression that a significant other should never force someone to make that choice. Bad times.
funnyz0r From: funnyz0r Date: November 24th, 2005 01:31 am (UTC) (Link)
I would never ask anyone to make a choice like that, but sometimes it happens. I don't know for sure that she'll do it, but then again, she's in that lovey dovey phase of the relationship...where her boyfriend can do no wrong. Kayla is proof of that phase. I'm not saying that said person is the same way, but just that i've seen it happen before. I hope it doesn't ever come down to that, but in the future when I have parties at my home, she will want to bring him, however he will never be welcome in my home again. The most he'll ever get from me is that i'll be decent to him for her. She doesn't want to be involved in this between us, but if you heard the voicemail he left me how could I not tell her what he is truly like?
I know if I play it for her, that it may come off that I am trying to break them up which isn't the case. But if I don't play it for her, she won't understand in the future why his sorry ass isn't welcome in my house or around me. What do you think?
lairans From: lairans Date: November 24th, 2005 10:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
I suppose that I would operate under the assumption that my friends would have better taste than to fall for people that have cannot at least be civil around their friends. Maybe this is too idealistic because this sort of situation happens extremely frequently. Kayla may actually be proof of this but she has also for the most part chosen her friends. She just choses to keep you guys separate (while not ideal, it at least shows that she cares). The caring friend, or rather, the non oblivious friend would at least notice that there is a problem and make every effort to find a solution if their significant other refuses to play nice. Whenever the "lovey dovey" phase wears off (depends on the relationship)-- she will realize that she actually needs her friends and either turn around and realize what is going on.... or make new ones that fit with her lifestyle with him :( -- sad stuff.
funnyz0r From: funnyz0r Date: November 25th, 2005 05:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
Hey thanks Chris. I kinda decided to talk to her about it. I'm going about it very careful way so I don't come off like I want to break them up. I gave his ass a chance to call me and talk to me about it, and now he's being a chicken. Either way, I'll let you know the outcome. : /
And yes, I did unblock you. : )
lairans From: lairans Date: November 26th, 2005 12:45 am (UTC) (Link)
jeese. good luck =\
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